The prostate gland has an important function in reproduction. Possessed by cisgender men and people assigned male at birth, it’s also a pleasure center known as the “male G-spot.” Maintaining good prostate health depends on preventative care, a healthy lifestyle, and best of all, masturbation! Read on for more healthy masturbation tips for men, as well as information on what the prostate is and how it functions.
What is the prostate?
The prostate is a small gland about the size of a walnut (shell included) essential to the male reproductive system. The prostate is located between the bladder and the penis lengthwise, and between the rectum and the base of the penis, surrounding the urethra. Some of the fluid that makes up semen is produced here, among other fluids produced by the seminal vesicles and testicles. Prostate fluid protects and nourishes sperm and helps it get where it needs to go.
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What are some common prostate gland irregularities?
As you age, the prostate can grow, causing a common condition called Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia. Since the prostate surrounds the urethra, BPH can cause problems when you urinate, including discomfort and inability to expel urine. BPH is incredibly common (8 out of 10 men will develop it in their lifetime) and has no correlation with prostate cancer. Only 30% of men with enlarged prostates experience discomfort, and it’s very manageable.
You can ease the symptoms of BPH by doing kegel exercises. That’s right, they’re not just for women. You don’t need a set of pelvic weights to do it, though; you can practice Kegels in the bathroom or shower hands-free. Simply contract and release the muscle you use to stop and start your urine flow over and over. Do several reps daily, and you’ll find you have better control of your stream. Talk to your doctor to discuss other treatment plans that are right for you.
Another extremely common but much more concerning issue for men is prostate cancer. It’s the second-most common cancer for men after skin cancer, and one in nine men will develop prostate cancer in their lifetime. The likelihood of having prostate cancer increases with age, hence the need for regular check-ups. Prostate cancer is very treatable, and survival rates are great with early detection. If you’re over 50, talk to your doctor about having a prostate exam.
How do I take care of my prostate?
The most important way to prevent prostate issues, especially as you get older, is to see your doctor for regular prostate check-ups. Exercise and a low-fat diet can also minimize risk. The most enjoyable way to take care of your prostate, however, is to masturbate!
Some doctors recommend a healthy once-a-month prostate massage if you’re young and in good health, and even more frequently with age. Regular prostate massage may prevent prostate cancer, relieve symptoms of BPH, and improve one’s urinary function and sexual performance. You can stimulate the prostate in a variety of ways, whether it’s internal or external, with a finger or toy, solo or with a partner.
How do I get started with prostate massage?
Masturbation of the prostate is most easily accessible through the rectum. If you’re new to anal play, welcome! Everyone should be empowered to enjoy pleasure from non-traditional avenues, no matter your sexuality or gender. That said, if you’ve never experimented with anal yet and aren’t ready to go all the way in, you can start out with some external prostate massage. Reach under your penis and testicles to find the perineum (the area between the testicles and the anus) and apply pressure. You can give yourself a gentle massage without any embellishments, or incorporate this external pressure into penile masturbation or intercourse. We-Vibe even makes a cock ring designed to stimulate the perineum for a hands-free taint massage.
If you’re ready to go in, get relaxed and do some deep breathing. Have some lotions for stimulating the prostate gland on hand – a nice thick lubricant will help you insert with ease. If you’re using your finger, opt for silicone-based lube, which tends to stay slippery for longer than water-based lubricant, which absorbs into the skin but is also more gentle on toys. There are even certain lubricants manufactured just for anal play. These tend to be more viscous and sometimes even contain a numbing agent such as benzocaine or lidocaine to decrease resistance. Be careful with that Anal-Ese though – you don’t want to be numb from the waist down! Apply just enough so you can relax but still feel all of those intense, overwhelming sensations. If you’re brand new to prostate play, start out simply and slowly with some manual manipulation.
If you’re exploring on your own, the easiest entryway to comfortably reach your prostate is to lay on your back and reach under your undercarriage. It may be a slight stretch, so prop yourself up with some pillows for support and leverage. If you have a partner or friend willing to lend you a hand, they can massage your prostate through a variety of positions. You can lay on your back with your knees bent, get on your hands and knees, or lay on your side with your partner wrapped around you. The possibilities are endless!
The prostate gland tends to swell when aroused, making it easier to find. The prostate is located toward the anterior of the body, so use your finger to make a “come-hither” motion about two inches up and in. When you find the prostate, you may feel an impulse similar to needing to urinate. Stop there and begin stroking. From here, you can thrust, rock back and forth, whatever feels good! Like the G-spot, the key to achieving a “p-spot” orgasm is pressure, so stroke assertively.
Ready for more? Time to get some prostate toys into the mix.
What prostate toys are best?
When looking for a toy to stimulate the prostate, the most important factors to consider are shape and material.
Due to the prostate’s location, a simple dildo or anal plug may not reach that hard-to-get spot. Look for a toy with a curve designed specifically to reach and massage the prostate. The Aneros brand has won awards for its flawless ergonomic design.
Easily insertable and hands-free, the line was developed with the assistance of doctors to improve prostate health and provide optimal orgasms. If you desire vibration in addition to all these other overwhelmingly pleasurable feelings, Lelo’s Loki Wave not only buzzes but also recreates that same “come-hither” motion we recommended to deliver you unspeakable delights.
As with any item you insert into your anal cavity, invest in high-quality hygienic materials. Glass, stainless steel and medical-grade silicone are the only materials that are non-porous and can be fully sanitized between uses. Silicone feels soft and supple if you prefer a gentle texture. Glass and metal toys can be cooled or heated for additional stimulation, and the weighty firmness adds pressure that makes those P-spot orgasms easier to come by. After use, wash with toy cleaner, or even boil to completely disinfect. Please also be mindful not to insert a toy that doesn’t have a flared base, as your super-strong sphincter muscles could make an un-flared toy difficult to retrieve!
What is a prostate orgasm like?
Like any good orgasm, the pleasure of a P-spot climax is hard to put into words, but it’s unlike any traditional orgasm you’ve had before. You may have a prostate orgasm without ejaculating, meaning that for some men, multiple orgasms are possible. You may emit a milky fluid from the penis, or you may experience normal ejaculation. During prostate play, your genitals may become extra sensitive. If you think regular masturbation feels good, just imagine what it could be like combined with a prostate orgasm! Enjoy exploring – and remember, it’s for your health!
