Restraints

How Do I Introduce the Concept of Restraints to My Partner?

If you’ve never dabbled in the world of kink, it’s normal to be a little worried about how your partner will react. The best option is just to start asking about it. When it comes to restraints, you absolutely need to have open communication, and if you’re not comfortable even discussing the concept, you might have issues actually putting it into play. Tell your partner why you’re interested in restraints, and if they have any problems with it, take them seriously and have a genuine discussion.

What Should I Keep in Mind When Using Kinky Toys?

Consent is always key with kinky toys. You never want to pressure your partner into trying or continuing to use restraints if they’re uncomfortable with it. Especially in the beginning, you’ll want to check in with your partner regularly — a simple “Are you okay?” can go a long way. If you want to keep getting kinkier, come up with a safeword, which is a special word that either partner can use to immediately stop the scene.

Will Restraints Hurt?

With some restraints, especially full-body harnesses, there’s an inherent level of discomfort. However, that’s often a good thing for people who are interested in restraints. You still need to be careful, even if you like the light pain associated with your restraints. If things start getting genuinely painful, you get uncomfortable, or your circulation gets cut off past one of your restraints, stop immediately and reassess. Likewise, one protip is to always keep scissors within arms reach during restraint play for safety’s sake.

Can I Combine Other Sex Toys With Restraints?

Absolutely. Plenty of people use restraints alongside other sex toys, especially vibrators and dildos. As you move into more kinky territory, you can find that chastity kits, electrosex toys, and even sex machines may interest you when used with your trusty restraints. Different restraints may also work best with different toys; bed restraint systems may work best with vibrators and dildos, while collars and leashes work with a wider variety of toys.