You’d think that with all the sex positivity movements going around, more teenagers than ever before are learning more about sex besides the old birds and bees. However, according to Planned Parenthood, sex education in the U.S. is pretty lame with not enough teens learning what they need to know about birth control, contraceptives, STDs, consent, and related topics in a school environment. These courses are important because parents can’t always be counted on to have other talks besides “The Talk,” and young people need to know about this stuff.
Naturally, none of this stops teens from getting curious. The real problem with not providing proper sex ed is that it often stops teens from getting the right facts! Making them seek out the info on their own sometimes leads them to less-than-reputable sources. They can end up believing in all kinds of misconceptions that can steer them wrong - and when it comes to sex, being wrong about something can have big consequences. Worse still, sometimes they don’t even know what they don’t know!
We at Hustler Hollywood know the value of proper, fact-based, comprehensive sex education. But seeing that we’re not a school, we’ll settle for putting our research right here, where anyone can learn it from anywhere. If you’re curious about how to do things the right way (and by that we mean sex things), here are three common sex tips and sex myths that aren’t true.
1. No, The First Time Doesn’t Always Hurt
Maybe you’ve heard this from your friends (who, of course, heard it from their friends), or maybe you’ve seen girls in pornos saying, “It hurts … but I like it!” Wherever you heard it from first, you might think that pain is part of losing your virginity, especially if you’re female. Well, it can hurt … but like with any other time you get penetrated, it doesn’t have to!
Many first-timers complain about it afterward because they cut to the chase without being fully aroused. It’s important to wait until you’re wet enough before you let yourself get shafted. In fact, when you’re really turned on, your vag actually gets wider, thicker, and even deeper while lubing itself up - meaning it’s easier and more fun to fit something in there. That’s called “tenting,” and if that name reminds you of “pitching a tent,” that’s because this is pretty much the female version of that. Note: this is exactly why foreplay is important.
Also, eagerness isn’t typically a problem, but if the person doing the penetrating is too eager, they could get too aggressive for comfort. Even if you’re soaked down there, your fuck buddy’s forcefulness could lead to friction, which is never fun. That’s especially tough if they’re entering from the rear - the anus can’t get wet like the pussy, so going in hard and dry can be a bad time for both of you. This is why lube is your friend.
One more thing: if it’s none of these, it might be that you have more hymenal tissue in your cooch than other girls. Have you ever heard that you bleed the first time something gets put in there? That’s your hymen getting stretched, which is perfectly natural and not dangerous. That bleeding should be a one-time deal, but if the pain continues, you might want to get it checked out.
Planned Parenthood also suggests that “you can slowly stretch your hymen tissue with your fingers over time to make it less painful.” Practice makes perfect!
2. Pleeease Don’t Depend on Pulling Out as Birth Control
Just as you wouldn’t drive your car like they do in the Fast and Furious movies, you shouldn’t try everything you see in porn. Let’s be real: most adult movies are still movies, with actors giving a performance. That means that some timeless tropes of erotica are there because they look sexy, rather than because they work in real life. That includes the classic method of “pulling out,” which means taking the dick out of the vagina right before coming.
Many young people think that condoms make sex less fun, but they don’t want to deal with pregnancy either. Coitus interruptus looks like the easy way out: you can have that “pure” experience and not worry about protection. That way, you can have your cake and fuck it, too.
It sounds good, but it’s a little too good to be true. For starters, not everyone who tries it - even those who boast about having great “pull-out game” - has the self-control necessary to get out every time. It also might not matter anyway because precum is 30% sperm. This means that even though pulling out sounds foolproof, it’s not exactly baby-proof. That’s all without even mentioning that penetration without protection puts you at risk of getting an STD or STI.
You’re not a bad person for wanting to make some sweet music without having to worry about a rubber. That said, you shouldn’t depend on this method to prevent you from dealing with pregnancies. Try the pill, an IUD, or special condoms designed to enhance pleasure if you want to get frisky without being too risky (note: still not completely risk-free).
Pulling out makes for some sexy scenes in porn, but if you use it as a substitute for birth control, it can be a big mess - in more ways than one - in real life.
3. Called It! Masturbation’s Awesome For You
By now, most people know better than to believe the old wives’ tales that masturbation makes you go blind or grow hairy palms (where did these rumors even start?). However, proud owners of dicks might be more concerned with the idea that they’ll face impotence, erectile dysfunction, and other problems with their boners if they touch themselves too much.
Someone may have told you that, but that someone was wrong. Men and women alike also don’t need to fear that self-stimulation is a cause or symptom of mental illness or physical disability. Scientists have yet to find any evidence that suggests masturbation causes any of these things. You can’t develop addiction to it (not in the literal sense, anyway, like with hard drugs or alcohol), and your parts won’t shrivel up from overuse.
On the contrary, onanism (a fancy synonym for masturbation, feel free to use it) has been found to have plenty of health benefits. Referring back to our sex-positive idols at Planned Parenthood, jacking off and jilling off is great stress relief that can help you release tension - both sexually and bodily. It can relieve menstrual cramps and even improve your sleep. These good times can actually be good for you.
Best of all, doing this often can improve your body image and self-esteem, and show you what you like from sex. When you touch yourself, do you like to take it slow or go quickly? Do you rub other parts besides down there? You can learn so much about your tastes and preferences when you try this by yourself, and that can help you show your partners how to get you off in a way that satisfies you.
So buff that muffin and make that bald man cry as much as you want. Far from hurting yourself, it actually helps you - and feels pretty damn good at the same time.
These are only three common sex tips and sex myths that aren’t true, but there are many other rumors and falsehoods floating around out there. If you’re curious about sex, it helps to educate yourself and find the kinds of sources that know the truth. Follow Hustler Hollywood’s blog for more accurate lessons on the world of lovemaking and look for some kinky toys that can help you with some more hands-on sexual education.
