Orgasms are arguably the best part of sex. But if you don’t orgasm from penetration, you are not alone. Only 25% of women experience an orgasm during penis-in-vagina sex. That… just isn’t acceptable. It has nothing to do with the size or the shape of the anatomy involved, the quality of the sex itself, or even the relationship between the partners. The true culprit? Lack of clitoral stimulation. The clit is located outside and above the vaginal canal, and often they can’t be reached during regular thrusting. It’s just one of those random misfortunes of nature that luckily can be easily addressed with a little effort and perseverance.
Achieving an orgasm is quite a worthy pursuit, whether you’re embarking on the quest alone or with a partner. It’s much easier to find the clitoris than the G-spot, but we’re going to guide you through stimulating both because you deserve to experience the heights of pleasure.
What is the clitoris?
The clitoris is the small, hooded organ at the top of the vulva, found right where the labia majora, or the outer lips, meet. This responsive little body part is filled with erectile tissue and 8,000 nerve endings. Because it’s visible, easy to find, and oh, so sensitive, stimulating this hot button is going to be the fastest and easiest way to have a satisfying orgasm. Manual stimulation works well for this, or you can spice it up and use a clitoral vibrator to bring about absolute ecstasy.
For many women, a clitoral orgasm is preferable to all other types of orgasms. Whether you’re soaking in the bath alone or playing with a partner, clitoral orgasms feel amazing, can happen quickly, and are reliable! No guesswork needed when your partner puts their mouth down there or if you use a Womanizer on your own to softly surround and suck on your clit. Even if you’re not extremely turned on or in the mood to begin with, you will be soon, and then it’s basically a sure thing that you’re going to come hard and fast.
Interestingly, research has found that the clitoris that’s visible and touchable is only the tip of the iceberg. An entire pleasure system lies beneath the surface. But foreplay is such an essential part of sex, make sure to give the clit some love, even if it’s just a stop on the path to G-spot O-town.
What is the G-spot?
The G-spot has long been shrouded in mystery and confusion. Does it exist? Do I have one? And if so, how on earth can I find it? Am I doing it right? Don’t feel ashamed for not knowing or being confused. The science and research on the female erogenous zone has been criminally lacking until recent years, and the evidence is still being updated as we speak. Wouldn’t you love to be part of that research team?
The G-spot was named after a German gynecologist, a Dr. Gräfenberg, who invented the IUD and published studies in scientific journals about “an erotic zone...on the anterior wall of the vagina.” Thanks, Dr. G! It’s a spongy bundle of nerve endings and tissue located inside the vagina’s “upper wall” about 2-3 inches in and toward the front of the body. It isn’t a gland like the prostate or a random hot zone that just manifested itself, however. The G-spot is actually the underside of the clitoris. As we mentioned, the clit is more than meets the eye. It’s a network of nerves that’s shaped more like a wishbone that extends beneath the surface of the vulva and around the vaginal opening. When you stimulate the G-spot, you’re really just engaging in more clitoral stimulation, albeit from a different angle.
Like the external clitoris, the “wings” of the clit will swell with blood when aroused. The G-spot will be easier to reach if engorged, so make sure you’re really, truly feeling randy before you get in there. Because the internal part of the clitoris is extensive, tease yourself in places beyond just the external clit or vaginal opening. Have your partner tickle your thighs, rub your labia, and massage your mons to build up your anticipation.
Stimulation of the G-spot is also the key to squirting. Applying pressure to the G-spot, in addition to rigorous foreplay, can cause an abundance of lubrication to flow from the vagina. Some women squirt more easily than others, and some can’t at all, but if you’re into it, it’s worth a try! Weightier toys made of glass or stainless steel can be beneficial if squirting is the desired outcome!
How to stimulate the G-spot
Some folks are blessed to have a G-spot that’s slightly larger or easier to reach than others, and they might be lucky enough to have a G-spot orgasm through penis-in-vagina sex. Certain positions lend themselves to G-spot orgasms more readily, such as doggy-style or missionary with the aid of sex furniture to prop up the hips. But if that’s not the case for you, or you don’t have sex with penises, there are other methods to try.
Because the G-spot is located toward the front of the body, the “come-hither” gesture is commonly recommended to stimulate the G-spot. Since it’s a bit difficult and awkward to reach with your own hand without acrobatic training, you might want to bring in a partner or a toy to lend a hand.
Many toys specifically designed for G-spot stimulation are curved at varying degrees to help reach just the right spot. For some, a gentle curve is all that’s needed, like the Jopen Callie Wand. Others may require a more drastic bend. For some, manual stimulation using a curved dildo is all that’s needed to reach climax.
Others may require vibration plus the intense sensation of a thrusting vibrator like the Stronic G. Your best bet for reaching orgasm, however, is to stimulate both the G-spot and the clitoris simultaneously. Dual vibrators like the We-Vibe Nova make this possible.
Those who have attained the elusive G-spot orgasm report that when you’ve hit the right spot, it almost feels like a need to urinate, likely due to pressure on the urethra. You won’t, however, especially if you go right before. If you push through this sensation, you’re on your way to an out-of-body experience. As you continue stroking or stimulating the area, you might feel yourself become wetter while waves of pleasure pulse throughout your entire being. Because a G-spot orgasm is more like a ripple effect of pleasure rather than a dramatic peak and then subsequent drop, multiple orgasms are more likely to occur.
If you don’t reach a G-spot orgasm on your first (or even fifth) attempt, don’t feel dismayed. They’re but one offering in life’s sexual smorgasbord. Keep trying, or move on and find something else you like. You can always visit a HUSTLER Hollywood store for ideas on how to have brand new, exciting, unique sexual experiences!
